Welcome To The Philosopher Dad

With the birth of my son Lucca, I quickly realized that the way I thought about the world and the way I thought about myself would have a serious impact on the way I behaved as a parent. This is in turn obviously will influence the way my son grows up. I figured it was time to take a serious look at being a modern working father. The concept for this blog is strongly influenced by the now-defunct Mothers Who Think section at Salon.com. I am not looking to write apologetics, or be an emasculated pseudo-new age man. I believe that a man can be masculine and caring and that there is an important role for manliness in a relationship, and in parenting.

Let me be clear about how I see manliness. This is not Maxim. Sex and sexuality are an important part of being a man – but the frat-boy attitude of what passes for men’s magazines is not what I’m talking about.

The books that have influenced my views on parenting are:
Iron John by Robert Bly
Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Childby John Gottman